“If one pretends to be dead, mourners will pretend to bury him alive,” is one of the thousands of African proverbs meant to educate, shape our lives and inspire us, as each proverb carries moral lesson, advice and wisdom. This particular proverb speaks against pretending.
As imperfect human beings we are responsible for both the good and bad things we do. Which ever way one takes it, to pretend is also considered to be something bad. The question is why do people pretend? According to a study, pretending has both advantages and disadvantages.
Sometimes one needs to pretend. For example, when all of a suddenly in a cinema hall, a gun man on a shooting spree takes everyone by surprise without any escaping route, pretending to be dead among those already dead could save your life. But in other ways, pretending can cause self destruction, depression, loneliness and other psychological problems. How?
The pressure in the society is enormous. Things are not going well, yet many people prefer to hide their problems behind false smile. If you don’t share your problem with your family or a trustworthy friend, how can someone know your problem to give the attention or help you need? Researchers reveal that hiding a problem behind a false smile or faking happiness, is more likely to bring you harmful feelings.