Many are experiencing bitter relationships, but how many of them try to find out the reason things are not going the right way?
Many are raised from different homes, influenced by
different cultures, customs, and traditions. Thus, living with other people
sometimes becomes a very difficult issue, proving that it’s often wrong if we
lean on our own understanding. Many times you may think you are right but
wrong.
It is very common and part of our everyday life, to see
beautiful ladies and gentlemen in town and at the offices. The perfume they
wear add glamor to their personalities with sweet charm, but many are
experiencing bitter relationships, often taking away their happiness and
putting them into a tunnel of misery.
The set up of our homes immediately conveys the message
to a visitor, nature, and character of those dwelling there and the sort of
training or life being acquired from it.
Truly, the life and character of a
person can easily be determined from the home he or she was raised. Thus, are
you one of those hard to live with, because of your bad character or the nature
of the home you were raised?
If you are a lady or gentleman in your late thirties and
still living single, after many stormy affairs, it’s time to sit quietly and
ask: Am I a difficult person to live with? If I am, how can I make things
better?
Once in Amsterdam, I shared a kitchen with other tenants
living in the apartment. More than a dozen times, I witnessed one of the male
tenants spitting into the kitchen sink.
A kitchen I cut my meat and do my
cooking? I was shocked to the extent that I lost the desire to cook in that
kitchen. I couldn’t tell him to stop because I don’t want any
confrontation.
This went on and on until one of the tenants caught him
in the act again and the confrontation escalated into a physical fight.
Eventually, the owner of the apartment who wasn’t pleased with what he did,
ejected him from that apartment.
How can an adult or fully grown man, lack the
intelligence to do something like that without noticing that’s completely
wrong?
In another development, a man lost his job because his
employers said he stinks. He stood his ground to tell his boss that he is the
one that stinks.
This bad odor is something I knew, but couldn’t tell him,
because there are certain things not easy to speak about it. This is a problem
which shows that as human beings we do many things and harbored many bad
characters we don’t simply see or notice them.
In the early 2000s, I nearly lost my job at the restaurant
I was working in Antwerp. One of my female colleague’s armpit stinks very
bad. I was finding it difficult to work with her, so I bought her a deodorant
to use.
The deodorant ended up in the hands of her husband, who came to the
office with his wife to see my boss. Luckily, I had already discussed this
issue with my boss, thus; I was set free.
It was a lesson I’m now very careful about the way I
approach things. Some kindness may put you into very big trouble.
Life is wonderful. Life doesn’t mean suffering but chains of
sad and bad events, including bad habits and character, have taken its toll on
mankind today, making life worthless to some people.
We can make life better
and worthy to live, by being humble, eliminating foolish pride, be content with
whatever we have and give respect and to love our neighbors.