CAN A MAN LOVE ONE WOMAN IN HIS ENTIRE LIFE?

Francisca Savage

Many experts and doctors claim that any man is polygamous by nature. This means that they absolutely cannot remain faithful to one woman but be tempted to love another woman or cheat on their wife because, as human beings, it’s really hard to resist temptation sometimes.

If that’s true, why are there marriages that have lasted from the very first day till death separates them? In fact, there are thousands of faithful men in their entire lives who loved only one woman.

January 1, 2018, marked 24 years of our wedding anniversary. On that day, I promised to go forward without looking back, prepared to face the rigors of marriage and settle as a responsible man.

Before then, finding or choosing the right woman to be my future partner was like a nightmare, taking into consideration the number of people getting a divorce every day after tying the knot.

It’s very common to see hundreds of couples at wedding ceremonies, particularly on Sundays, making vows and promises to love each other and bringing an entire room to tears. 

After the wedding or traditional marriage, they start a big celebration together with family and friends, and the couple is full of hopes and dreams, but like the fading sun, many marriages fail to last.

Marriages are now characterized by many problems, to the extent that many fear marrying. As a matter of fact, marriage is a journey not only full of happiness but also pain, tragedies, misery, sadness, and uncertainty.

Even though there are hundreds of articles online and books on how to be a successful couple to enjoy a happy marriage, many marriages still end up in separation or divorce.

The question is: Why do some marriages last forever and others disintegrate? There are many reasons leading to the break-up of marriages, but most reasons are not spending enough time together with your partner, cheating, allowing bitterness and resentment to overrule the heart, being hard to forgive, and financial issues.

Making vows is very easy, but the results of some bitter separations and divorces could be disastrous. Some breakups of marriages have led partners to mental institutions, and others, after a long time, still find it difficult to come to terms with what had happened to them.

If children are involved, some are badly affected depending on how old they are.  Unfortunately, many couples do not recognize the Holy Bible as one of the best books that could guide marriage to success and happiness.

Gen 49:4, Mal 2:14, Matt 23:30, Deut 24:5, Mark 12:23, etc., all speak about marriages. When I got married on January 1, 1994, I realized that wealth doesn’t guarantee a happy marriage, but faithfulness, respect, fulfilling your commitments, and equally sharing responsibilities do.

I have enjoyed a happy marriage for over two decades, knowing that there is more happiness ahead of me, because I have a good wife who loves and respects me, while I give back the same love and respect to her.

On many occasions when my wife is busy at work and at home, I usually ask her what she would like me to cook. By the time she returns, the food is ready for her and the children.

Mr. and Mrs. Francisca / Joel Savage

Taking such responsibilities strengthens marriage. I have heard many times men saying, “I’m not stupid enough to let my woman know how much I earn.” That’s a very big mistake; one of the strongest foundations of marriage is transparency.

When you are a married man, don’t hide anything from your wife. Your wife is the one who can manage your finances very well if there is trust and mutual understanding.

Many times, I forget that I have even given her money to keep for me until she reminds me. ‘A woman is like a beautiful flower in the middle of the garden, and the man is the fence around her.’ That’s a Ghanaian proverb, I think so.

Be ready to say to your wife, “I am sorry,” any time you make a mistake. If you find it hard to apologize to your wife, there will always be a misunderstanding.

Give your wife the respect, love, and protection she needs, and surely you will also be a happy man. We are blessed with three sons, and from every angle, I can't see what is strong enough to separate us from death.

MY SECRET POWER IS

The best book to read is the Bible. It's powerful to heal and restore your life to be a great person

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During my youthful days, among friends, we used to cause laughter and make a lot of jokes. One of them is “No one drinks medicine on behalf of a sick person.” In other words, happiness is your mind, soul, and body. 

If you want someone to make you happy, then you will be disappointed. And the best way to maintain this happiness is to be you, content with whatever you have, and avoid stealing and greed.

My secret superpower, which kept me moving and made me endure most of the trials and tribulations, was the Bible. The Bible is one of the best books to read; unfortunately, many still don’t know the value of the book.

We used to create our own toys. Our parents were not rich, but they never chased after money. The pride of our parents seeing us around them motivated and inspired us to obey them.

Today, I am happily married and very soon we shall celebrate our silver jubilee of marriage. I am a father of three handsome sons and a grandfather. 

Without the Bible and the love of my parents, I wouldn’t have reached this far. I thank God for his blessings.

WHY DO PEOPLE BLAME GOD FOR TODAY'S VIOLENCE?

There are many churches throughout Europe, but they are empty every Sunday.


Christianity found its way to Africa through the white missionaries who went to the continent years ago, but it is like Africans have embraced the Christian faith than the whites themselves. 

It is very common to see Africans worshipping God in churches on Sundays, while on the same Sunday, you see Whites at the drinking pubs enjoying glasses of wine and beer. 

In Britain, a few churches had been converted to drinking pubs, yet the government is fighting hard against alcoholism, teenage pregnancy, hooliganism, and crime without success.

Many simply have no time at all to think of God, let alone to attend church service on Sundays to worship the creator. Once I visited a church in a small town in Rome-Italy called "Sacrofano." 

The beautifully designed ancient church attracted me into it with the desire to fellowship with them that Sunday.

 

I was shocked to see that the pastor was preaching to only two people in this big church. I joined them, and the number increased to three. 

In Antwerp, Belgium, most of the time I see people at the church when someone has died. It is like the church was built to pay last respect to only the dead, not the living.

The world today is full of turmoil, war, tribal conflicts, racism, discrimination, etc. All these problems are caused by man. Man decides to cause pain, havoc, and unrest to people and our societies, but not God.

 

Why then do people ignorantly ask, if there is God, why must all these problems occur? People drink and lose their minds to kill, stab, and beat their wives and children, yet many prefer to drink rather than read the Holy Bible, a book that heals our spiritual and physical problems.

Hebrews chapter 12:26-27, predicts that "Everything that can be shaken will be shaken.....so that only those things that can not be shaken will remain." This means that our jobs, retirement, pensions, children, health, etc, can be shaken at times. 

At the same time, the Bible says, "Everything shall pass, but the word of God shall be there forever." This is an important message to remind men to find solace in God by reading the Holy Bible. 

Alcohol, crime, and all the evil things men commit will lead us to a place we have never dreamt of, that is, going to hell and jail.