CAN A MAN LOVE ONE WOMAN IN HIS ENTIRE LIFE?

Francisca Savage

Many experts and doctors claim that any man is polygamous by nature. This means that they absolutely cannot remain faithful to one woman but be tempted to love another woman or cheat on their wife because, as human beings, it’s really hard to resist temptation sometimes.

If that’s true, why are there marriages that have lasted from the very first day till death separates them? In fact, there are thousands of faithful men in their entire lives who loved only one woman.

January 1, 2018, marked 24 years of our wedding anniversary. On that day, I promised to go forward without looking back, prepared to face the rigors of marriage and settle as a responsible man.

Before then, finding or choosing the right woman to be my future partner was like a nightmare, taking into consideration the number of people getting a divorce every day after tying the knot.

It’s very common to see hundreds of couples at wedding ceremonies, particularly on Sundays, making vows and promises to love each other and bringing an entire room to tears. 

After the wedding or traditional marriage, they start a big celebration together with family and friends, and the couple is full of hopes and dreams, but like the fading sun, many marriages fail to last.

Marriages are now characterized by many problems, to the extent that many fear marrying. As a matter of fact, marriage is a journey not only full of happiness but also pain, tragedies, misery, sadness, and uncertainty.

Even though there are hundreds of articles online and books on how to be a successful couple to enjoy a happy marriage, many marriages still end up in separation or divorce.

The question is: Why do some marriages last forever and others disintegrate? There are many reasons leading to the break-up of marriages, but most reasons are not spending enough time together with your partner, cheating, allowing bitterness and resentment to overrule the heart, being hard to forgive, and financial issues.

Making vows is very easy, but the results of some bitter separations and divorces could be disastrous. Some breakups of marriages have led partners to mental institutions, and others, after a long time, still find it difficult to come to terms with what had happened to them.

If children are involved, some are badly affected depending on how old they are.  Unfortunately, many couples do not recognize the Holy Bible as one of the best books that could guide marriage to success and happiness.

Gen 49:4, Mal 2:14, Matt 23:30, Deut 24:5, Mark 12:23, etc., all speak about marriages. When I got married on January 1, 1994, I realized that wealth doesn’t guarantee a happy marriage, but faithfulness, respect, fulfilling your commitments, and equally sharing responsibilities do.

I have enjoyed a happy marriage for over two decades, knowing that there is more happiness ahead of me, because I have a good wife who loves and respects me, while I give back the same love and respect to her.

On many occasions when my wife is busy at work and at home, I usually ask her what she would like me to cook. By the time she returns, the food is ready for her and the children.

Mr. and Mrs. Francisca / Joel Savage

Taking such responsibilities strengthens marriage. I have heard many times men saying, “I’m not stupid enough to let my woman know how much I earn.” That’s a very big mistake; one of the strongest foundations of marriage is transparency.

When you are a married man, don’t hide anything from your wife. Your wife is the one who can manage your finances very well if there is trust and mutual understanding.

Many times, I forget that I have even given her money to keep for me until she reminds me. ‘A woman is like a beautiful flower in the middle of the garden, and the man is the fence around her.’ That’s a Ghanaian proverb, I think so.

Be ready to say to your wife, “I am sorry,” any time you make a mistake. If you find it hard to apologize to your wife, there will always be a misunderstanding.

Give your wife the respect, love, and protection she needs, and surely you will also be a happy man. We are blessed with three sons, and from every angle, I can't see what is strong enough to separate us from death.

HOW COOKING AT HOME BUILDS A HAPPY MARRIAGE AND FAMILY

Cooking at home builds a happy marriage.


Marriage is a bond between a man and a woman, united to live together. The wishes married couples seek include happiness, prosperity, and good health. But many times these wishes rather become a nightmare, bringing many marriages to an abrupt end.


One important factor, which many women don't even think about it but could easily bring a marriage to an end, is when the woman doesn't know how to cook. In African society, a mother teaches her daughter how to cook before stepping into marriage. 

That is the reason it is rare to find a woman who doesn't know how to cook in Africa. Also, divorce is less common in Africa.

The experienced African woman knows perfectly well that it is a total disgrace not only to her daughter but also to her when her daughter doesn't know how to cook. 

In this case, before her daughter steps into marriage, she teaches her many things, including cooking, to build a happy, successful marriage and family.

Unfortunately, in the advanced countries, it is not an important issue to a  White woman who doesn't know how to cook because there a restaurants, pizza, and Chinese food to order, and tin foods at the supermarket. 

As a married woman, how would your marriage be when, after the day's hard work, your husband arrives home to see a can of spaghetti bought from the supermarket on the dining table as his dinner?

The man might not complain, even though he is not happy. How long can he harbor this in him? Eventually, he quickly seeks his happiness somewhere else. 

Cooking is a profession, yet many can learn as a hobby or as a married woman. There are so many cookbooks that can help a beginner.

Don't think that putting on the sexiest dress or keeping sexy for your husband all the time would save your marriage. Learn how to cook and be a good wife to your husband. He will love you forever and ever boast of how good his wife can cook to his friends. 

Order your pizza and Chinese food once a month or not at all. They are unhealthy.