Showing posts with label Separation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Separation. Show all posts

Tuesday, January 07, 2014

DIVORCE AND SEPARATION- CAUSES MANY ARE NOT AWARE OF

Young couple cooking at home

Young couple cooking at home


Falling in love is a wonderful and magical experience between two people. The chemistry is strange and sometimes very complicated but the experience differs in many ways, however, the commonest are happiness, restlessness, and strong emotions. 


Falling in love with someone doesn’t always guarantee a successful marriage or living together. Frankly speaking, according to statistics, many are getting a divorce more than living together.

 

To build and support successful marriage or relationships, many partners read books written as a guide to a successful and marriage.

 

Despite hundreds of books counseling couples, lovers are constantly in pain, emotionally and psychologically affected by painful love affairs. 

 

The causes of divorces or separations vary, lack of attention, sex, cheating, quarrels, financial matters, and many others attribute to going separate ways. 

 

However; few things many never thought of as a destroyer of marriages is the lack of cooking at home and lack of prevention of early sex in teenage relationships.

 

Many couples' friendships began at school as teenagers before they settled. In principle, it is always good for people to study and know each other very well, before entering into relations or love affairs. 

 

But on moral issues entering into relationships as teenagers isn’t a wise thing to do. Children as young as thirteen and fourteen indulged in caressing and kissing. This is seen as normal in advanced countries but in Africa, it is not permitted.

 

Most of these early relationships end up in separate ways or living together but when they finally get married, love isn't as strong as before. That’s where the problems begin. In this case, the marriage doesn't go far. Why? 

 

The reason is simple and logical, both have seen their nakedness too much as teenagers to the extent that they no longer value their precious bodies as adults.

 

Since no more happiness, the essence of enjoying a happy relationship is completely ruined. Here the dignity and the worthiness of the woman have been neglected by the man. It is always the man that causes the breakup because he wants something new. 

 

Many start to cheat and stayed late at work in illicit love affairs. A woman or man may find real happiness in life, marriage, living together, or in relationships when they enter into a love affair as adults than as teenagers.

 

Any man or woman who doesn’t know how to cook before getting into a relationship or marriage may not fully enjoy the relationship. 

 

There is always a guarantee for a happy marriage when one of the partners know how to cook but if both can’t cook means the marriage may have a bleak future.

 

Imagine a family depending always on fast and tin foods. How would a husband feel after a day’s hard work, comes home to sit behind the dining table and be served with tin spaghetti with that marshy tomato sauce? Many enjoy that but that’s a health hazard.

 

A man facing such a situation may never be happy. Some may speak against it but many hide the way they feel when upset. Since he can’t live with that any longer he starts to seek his interest in other places. 

 

That’s where the cheating starts. If the one he is seeing can provide him those delicious meals he is missing from his previous partner, the relationship automatically comes to an end.

 

It is therefore very essential for both men and women to learn or know how to cook before getting into a relationship or marriage. Getting familiar with cooking isn’t a difficult issue. 

 

There are thousands of books and adult schools for cooking. The time factor is always an issue.

 

Many may not have the time to go to a cooking school after work. Here a cooking book is very useful. Just follow the instructions on how to cook and next you see the delicious meal on the dining table. 

 

You may not be perfect at your first attempt but remember practice makes a man perfect. 

 

Besides, cultivating the habit of cooking at home saves a lot of money. I am happily married for the past twenty-six years. When my wife is busy at work, I do the cooking for the children. 

 

This is the only way to share the secrets of why our marriage is stronger than ever. I am a very good cook besides my writing career.

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

TEENAGE LOVE AFFAIR LEADS TO EARLY SEPARATION AND DIVORCE


Early teenage lovers


 Early teenage lovers



Many couples, seen with or without children, had friendships that began at school as teenagers, before they married or settled together. 


In principle, it is always good for people to study and know each other very well before entering into relations or love affairs.



Children's and teenagers' liberty in advanced countries can’t be compared to that of African children and teenagers. 


For example, in Africa, children are severely punished when they do wrong, but in Europe or America, punishing a child could lead to many problems. One may even end up in prison for punishing their son or their own daughter.


The rate of divorce and separation is very high in advanced countries, so I looked back to review why divorce is very low in Africa. 


In Africa, it is a gross disrespect to parents when a sixteen-year-old child comes home to introduce his girlfriend or her boyfriend. However, in advanced countries, it is permitted.


Children as young as thirteen and fourteen indulged in caressing and kissing. This could go on until they go their separate ways or settle. When they finally get married, the love isn't as strong as before; in this case, the marriage doesn't go far. 


Both have seen their nakedness too much when they were teenagers, to the extent that they don't value their precious bodies any longer.


Here, the dignity and the worthiness of the woman have been neglected by the man. It is always the man who causes the breakup because he wants something new. 


A woman or man may find real happiness in life, marriage, living together, or in relationships when they enter into love affairs as adults rather than as teenagers.


That is the reason in Africa, separation and divorce are less common than in advanced countries. 


Europe, America, Japan, Korea, and other advanced countries are far ahead in development, education, and technology, compared to Africa, yet the rate of divorce, separation, and suicide is higher than in Africa.


Smoking is like a fashion among teenagers in advanced countries, but it’s less common in Africa. Teenage pregnancy is booming in Europe and America, while it’s less common in Africa. 


It's time for advanced countries to stop underestimating Africa and learn something from that continent. Africa is called a poor continent, but Europe and America forget that they made the continent poor by depending on its resources.

Monday, June 06, 2011

MARRIAGE TODAY, SEPARATION OR DIVORCE TOMORROW


Divorce is now very common in our today's society


Divorce is now very common in today's society.



Hundreds of couples, particularly on Sundays at wedding ceremonies, make vows and promises to each other. After the wedding or even a traditional marriage, it starts a big celebration together with family and friends, with a couple full of hopes and dreams. 


As a matter of fact, marriage is a journey not only full of happiness but also pain, tragedies, misery, sadness, and uncertainty. What are the causes of marriage failure?

Even though there are articles, seminars on how couples to spend a happy time together, and thousands of books on the road to a happy marriage, there is always a failure in many marriages. 

There are many reasons leading to many breakups of marriages, but most reasons are not spending enough time together, cheating, and allowing bitterness and resentment to build in couples' hearts.

The results of some bitter separations and divorces could be disastrous. Some breakups of marriages had led partners to mental institutions, and others, after a long time, still find it difficult to come to terms with what had happened to them. 

If children are involved, some are badly affected depending on how old they are.

Unfortunately, many couples do not recognize the Holy Bible as one of the best books that could guide marriage to happiness. Gen 49:4, Mal 2:14, Matt 23:30, Deut 24:5, Mark 12:23, etc, all speak about marriages.

Wealth doesn't guarantee a happy marriage. The same thing also applies to the poor. It is commitment, trust, and love that could build a happy marriage. 

That is the reason the greatest commandment of all the commandments is "Love thy neighbor as thyself".