10 AFRICAN REMARKABLE PROVERBS WITH A MORAL LESSON

The gentle monkey

1. Allowing the monkey to wear clothes doesn’t guarantee the animal to join the dining table. Meaning: Some people abuse their trust if you are kind to them. Don’t take a friend for a fool if he helps you every time. 

2. A man who hangs around a beautiful lady without saying anything, yet he likes her, will end up serving the guests on her wedding day. – Just be bold to tell a lady you like her if you’re interested in her. 

3. A beautiful girl without any intelligence ends up abusing herself. Her private part suffers the most. – You need to be intelligent too if you are beautiful, else you will end up sleeping with thousands of men to ruin the ‘golden box.’ 


4. Whoever presents his own head to break a coconut would not be able to partake in eating it. – This is a warning to be careful in whatever you do because some kindness may put you into very big trouble. 

5. There is no way a chicken will pass corn or maize without swallowing it. Even if the corn is too big to swallow, the beak will break it into pieces. If a friend offers you a place, be careful not to get closer to his wife because of temptation. 

6. The buttocks are like a married couple. There is constant friction between them, yet they still love and live together. – There is no marriage or relationship without a dispute. If misunderstanding comes, settle it amicably before planning to divorce.

7. Never let negative people rent a space in your head. Raise the tent and kick them out. – You have the power to resist evil influence. Don’t follow bad friends to put you in a place you never wished to be. 

8. If one finds a wallet on the road and takes all the money in it before he finds the owner, there is no reward or blessing for you. Giving the owner all his money back will reveal your honesty, for the owner to do something extraordinary for you. “This is what I did, and the owner helped me to be employed. I’m still at the same place after twelve years.” 

 9. When you are doing well in life, climbing up with success, remember to help those you are leaving behind. One day, if things go badly for you, they will remember what you did for them, and they will help you, too. – Be kind to the less fortunate ones, because no one knows tomorrow.

10. The heart of a rich man lies in his wealth, and that of the poor man lies in the faith of God. The reason poor people sleep better than the rich because they always think of their wealth. Jesus confirmed it.” It is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of the needle than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.”

DIVORCE AND SEPARATION- CAUSES MANY ARE NOT AWARE OF

Young couple cooking at home

Falling in love is a wonderful and magical experience between two people. The chemistry is strange and sometimes very complicated but the experience differs in many ways, however, the commonest are happiness, restlessness, and strong emotions. 

Falling in love with someone doesn’t always guarantee a successful marriage or living together. Frankly speaking, according to statistics, many are getting a divorce more than living together.

 

To build and support successful marriage or relationships, many partners read books written as a guide to a successful and marriage.

 

Despite hundreds of books counseling couples, lovers are constantly in pain, emotionally and psychologically affected by painful love affairs. 

 

The causes of divorces or separations vary, lack of attention, sex, cheating, quarrels, financial matters, and many others attribute to going separate ways. 

 

However; few things many never thought of as a destroyer of marriages is the lack of cooking at home and lack of prevention of early sex in teenage relationships.

 

Many couples' friendships began at school as teenagers before they settled. In principle, it is always good for people to study and know each other very well, before entering into relations or love affairs. 

 

But on moral issues entering into relationships as teenagers isn’t a wise thing to do. Children as young as thirteen and fourteen indulged in caressing and kissing. This is seen as normal in advanced countries but in Africa, it is not permitted.

 

Most of these early relationships end up in separate ways or living together but when they finally get married, love isn't as strong as before. That’s where the problems begin. In this case, the marriage doesn't go far. Why? 

 

The reason is simple and logical, both have seen their nakedness too much as teenagers to the extent that they no longer value their precious bodies as adults.

 

Since no more happiness, the essence of enjoying a happy relationship is completely ruined. Here the dignity and the worthiness of the woman have been neglected by the man. It is always the man that causes the breakup because he wants something new. 

 

Many start to cheat and stayed late at work in illicit love affairs. A woman or man may find real happiness in life, marriage, living together, or in relationships when they enter into a love affair as adults than as teenagers.

 

Any man or woman who doesn’t know how to cook before getting into a relationship or marriage may not fully enjoy the relationship. 

 

There is always a guarantee for a happy marriage when one of the partners know how to cook but if both can’t cook means the marriage may have a bleak future.

 

Imagine a family depending always on fast and tin foods. How would a husband feel after a day’s hard work, comes home to sit behind the dining table and be served with tin spaghetti with that marshy tomato sauce? Many enjoy that but that’s a health hazard.

 

A man facing such a situation may never be happy. Some may speak against it but many hide the way they feel when upset. Since he can’t live with that any longer he starts to seek his interest in other places. 

 

That’s where the cheating starts. If the one he is seeing can provide him those delicious meals he is missing from his previous partner, the relationship automatically comes to an end.

 

It is therefore very essential for both men and women to learn or know how to cook before getting into a relationship or marriage. Getting familiar with cooking isn’t a difficult issue. 

 

There are thousands of books and adult schools for cooking. The time factor is always an issue.

 

Many may not have the time to go to a cooking school after work. Here a cooking book is very useful. Just follow the instructions on how to cook and next you see the delicious meal on the dining table. 

 

You may not be perfect at your first attempt but remember practice makes a man perfect. 

 

Besides, cultivating the habit of cooking at home saves a lot of money. I am happily married for the past twenty-six years. When my wife is busy at work, I do the cooking for the children. 

 

This is the only way to share the secrets of why our marriage is stronger than ever. I am a very good cook besides my writing career.

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Men and women, which of them are the most faithful and sincere?

A cheating man caught red-handed


I write about many interesting issues, but I have never thought of writing about gender faithfulness or unfaithfulness to each other, when one day, someone asked me, "Why do most men die and leave behind their wives?" 

I couldn`t find an answer to her question, then, without a thought, I said, "Because most men are unfaithful to their partners." I was surprised she was satisfied with my answer.

But is it very true that men fall short when it comes to dishonesty? Well, many men lie and cheat on their partners, but also women. 

Most men cheat on their wives and girlfriends for several reasons, including lack of sexual satisfaction, biological problems that the woman is not aware of, but of which the man cannot speak. But with women? I keep on asking myself, "Why do they often cheat on their men?"

Are they also looking for sexual satisfaction or money? On Monday, 28 September 2009, whilst waiting at London`s Victoria Coach Station to join my bus to Dorset, a sad story caught my attention in an entertainment newspaper called "London Lite." 

The story was about a woman who was allegedly strangled by her own husband after discovering that she was having an affair with another man.

The husband, after having enough evidence, including a secret taping of 127 hours of his wife's conversations with her lover, confronted his wife, who asked for a divorce. To me, that was a very good wife. 

She did not deny her unfaithfulness but quickly asked for a divorce of which her man should have accepted the request and given her freedom.

Instead, he did the most stupid thing a man could do. Fearing the loss of his home, two children, and fortune, the jealous husband chose to kill his wife, pretending he did not know of her death. 

The court heard of his wife`s previous adulterous adventures. Marriage always turns to a different angle of diverse problems when there isn`t any transparency, honesty, and faithfulness.

Even though I know that most men die leaving their partners, I can`t really say it is because of their unfaithfulness to their partners, since women also cheat on their husbands. But it is a fact that a greater percentage of men cheat on their wives than women.